Sooner or later, the trail of a cheating spouse is uncovered and their little secret it no more. You may not yet be the victim of infidelity; however, there may have been times when you got a funny feeling something was up with your spouse. Whether it had to do with all those extra late nights “working” or the unexplainable expenses on your credit card, you start to put the pieces together and begin to suspect your spouse is cheating. Then there are the phone calls…

Once in a while you get a phone call, that as you answer there is a “click”. Given that people are going to mess up dialing from time to time, you probably could pass it off as a wrong number. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, that wrong number could take on a whole new meaning. Just the number on its own does not reveal a lot, however, that same number when put into a reverse phone lookup service can turn the tables on your cheating spouse.

A reverse phone lookup takes the number you have and provides invaluable information including the name of the caller, the location of the caller – it can even map out where the caller lives! What kind of impact could that information have on your search for the truth? It would be huge! There are pay and free services available; unfortunately, the free services give you very little information to work with. Considering how valuable the additional information gleaned from a reverse phone lookup can be, the small investment is well worth it in the end. Some services will allow you to pay by each search, others you can pay a subscription fee to access numerous (even unlimited) reverse phone lookups.

About a third of all divorces can be attributed to spouses involved in an online affair. About 70 percent of online activity is spent in chat rooms and sending email. These statistics do not fare well for married couples. If your spouse seems to be spending a large amount of time “surfing the web”, it might include an online affair. If you suspect your spouse is using your computer to cheat, be rest assured there are tools available that will quickly confirm these suspicions. It is time to pull the plug on their dirty little secret, and here’s how you are going to do it.

Special software is available that will track activity on your computer. Many times, parents will purchase these “keylogging” products to keep an eye on what their children see and read while online. Well, these keyloggers are not limited to watching over your child anymore. If you suspect your spouse is cheating online, you can find out by getting hold of your own copy.

Keylogging software will log virtually everything on your computer. Whether it is emails, chat room conversations, images, web pages, voice and video transmissions, keylogging software takes care to track it all. If you spouse is up to no good, you will be able to find out very quickly. The program runs in stealth mode, hidden in your computer, quietly and effectively logging key strokes and other data. When you need to, a secure login will allow you to access all the information.

Keep in mind, you are dealing with a cheater. Much of the content of their online activity may include explicit conversations, and images – heck, your name might even come up in the chat your spouse has with this secret lover. The information you discover could be very upsetting and shocking, so proceed with that in mind. I guess if you spouse is actually cheating, this information will not be any more stressing than when their affair is out in the open.

Many keylogging software companies offer a free, limited version of their product – it gives you a chance to try it out and see if it is right for you. By limited, it might mean restricted functionality, or a time limit trial. Since the discovery that your spouse is cheating is so great, I would recommend opting to purchase. You do not know how many chances you are going to get to catch the cheater, so better to be ready the first time.

No one likes a sneak. It’s funny how they THINK they are sneaking and hiding their little secret, when it really is just right out there in the open. This is so true in many cases when dealing with a cheating spouse. How ever well they intend on keeping their little affair a secret from you, the characteristics are plainly obvious. If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, read on and get the low-down on what actions give them away.

How obvious is this: your spouse comes home, a new hair cut, a wardrobe that last week they would not be caught dead in, and donning a new cologne/perfume. Now, there will be the rare moment in time when someone goes for the complete make-over, but in your case you might want to consider something else. Cheating spouses will re-make themselves into what their new significant other desires. They might even go as far as to start exercising! We are talking about the spouse that spent most of the time on the couch watching tv and was more concerned about the remote control than anything else. If there does not seem to be any other reason for a sudden change in their “look”, it could be time to dig deeper and find out who is influencing them so much!

Another big clue involves the bedroom – and we are not talking about your bedroom. A cheating spouse has a lot less interested in you and an intimate relationship when they are getting it somewhere else. Why would they even consider jumping into bed with you when it is much more exciting with their new lover? “I’m too tired” or “I have a headache” might indicate more than just that. Of course, there’s also the chance that your spouse becomes more active with you – wanting to try new things in the bedroom. You have to wonder where these sudden heated desires are coming from too. If you sex life has been pretty normal, any big changes – either way – could give away the secret affair your spouse is having.

Does your spouse spend more time in an anxious state? They are more on edge, paranoid, and quick to question anything you say to them. Well, of course they are going to be like that. They are keeping in a secret and know that one slip up and their affair is out in the open. Too late! We already know that there are many signs of a cheating spouse – one of them being paranoia. A phone rings, they jump and wonder who it was. A knock at the door. A call out of their “name” as you walk through the mall. You might even observe them nabbing the bills before you get to see them. Take this recent change of character seriously, it might be for reasons you have yet to discover.

Finding out your spouse has been cheating on you is, without a doubt, devastating. Your whole world is turned upside down – the loving relationship you both had (or so you thought) was built on lies. Maybe you are one of the lucky ones – your spouse loves you more than anything and would NEVER cheat on you. How sure are you? Have you noticed that your spouse has been different lately? If you get that rotting feeling in the pit of your stomach when you entertain the thought that your spouse is cheating on you, it might be time to take a closer look.

When your spouse shows a lack of interest in the bedroom and making time for intimacy, it might not just be what they tell you. Sure, stresses like work, money, and healthy can extinguish the desire to be intimate, but maybe in your case, their sexual desires are elsewhere. Those same old excuses such as “I’m too tired” or “I have a headache”, are probably just that – excuses. They are lost in thought over this new secret lover and focus their sex and intimacy in a bedroom other than yours. On the other hand, if you sex life has been pretty normal, and there is a sudden desire to try new tricks in the bedroom, it might indicate a wilder sex life somewhere else. Don’t fall for the same old excuses, dig deeper and get to the bottom of it.

A spouse that is cheating usually will be more distracted and lost in thoughts and daydreams. Their focus is no longer on you and your relationship I am sorry to say. They will display a lack of desire to do anything around the house, probably will opt out of get-togethers with friends and just want more time alone. Your spouse will also have less patience – starting arguments with you – just to create space. If you are feeling alone in the house with the two of you there, then something is going on. If they offer no believable reasons for this new lack of focus and attention, then they are not giving you the whole story.

Another indicator of a cheating spouse is when they change aspects of their outward appearance. New hair styles, colognes/perfumes, clothing choices tell you someone else is influencing them. If their new lover likes your spouse’s hair a certain way, or tells them they look good in a certain style, then your spouse is going to change. They want to impress their new love interest – and will stop at no cost. Which leads to a closer look at your credit cards – unknown charges could be signs they are buying gifts and other merchandise for their “new life”.

Lately your spouse just is not the same. You cannot put your finger on it, but the way they react is different, and they seem more distant. Maybe it is work, or concerns over money?

Maybe it is a new person in their lives – a secret lover?

If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, there are certain characteristics to watch out for. But then again, maybe it is work, health or money concerns – but just to be sure, check out these tips that will identify a cheating spouse.

Distraction

Amidst a new relationship, a person can be overwhelmed with thoughts of their new companion. If your spouse is more distracted than normal, this could indicate a cheater. Lack of desire to do anything around the house (it might take away from their “thought-time” of their new significant other), forgetfulness, daydreaming, distance and more into themselves are red flags to watch for. They will show a preference to spend time alone, dreaming about their next encounter.

Re-model

To impress a new lover, it is essential that you be who they want you to be (at least to start). If your spouse is cheating, you might see a change in wardrobe choices, a new haircut, a different cologne/perfume, and might go as far as to take on a new exercise regime. If your spouse has had the same hair-doo forever, you might want to question the reasoning behind the new look. Making more than one change is usually not the norm, unless of course there is some else they want to be noticed by. Check you credit cards too, unknown charges might be related to gifts for the new lover.

Intimacy, or rather the lack thereof

There can be many reasons that a couple will have issues with intimacy. Work and money problems can get in the way of quality time together. Then again, it might be a new lover. If your spouse if giving there all to this new secret lover, they are not going to have as much interest in time with you. Those are the cold, hard facts. In a twisted way, intimate time with you might be considered cheating on their new significant other! If you are getting the same old excuses about headaches and being over-tired, you might want to investigate further.